Thursday, April 16, 2009

i hate you...

these are the words we are starting to hear a little too often around our house. i'm sure you would never guess that it's coming straight from mr. attitude personality himself.


he is usually the instigator around our house. luke never told us "no" or talked back until seth learned to do it. aye aye aye at the drama with this one.

so my question is this...what do (or will) you do when your little one says those most appreciated words? please don't tell me to ignore it. i just am NOT one of those parents and i just don't feel that is an option with boys. refer to my opinion that boys are born cavemen and as mothers, we are simply here to train them, because looking at men sometimes, i'm not sure they can be taught. (sorry fellas. it's just that wonky y chromosome you were dealt!! i love my hubby, but he's easily trainable. it's a trait i love most about him. and yes, i have said that to his face.)

anyway...discuss. i'm worn out.

11 comments:

BASSakward Tales said...

coming from the mother of the modern version of opie taylor...who was a spitfire herself back in the day...this is what i did...make him take his pants off and make him kneel on his knees with hands behind head on an air conditioning vent...it will hurt...for every time he says an undesireable phrase that is a minute on the vent...eventually he will learn that if i say something mommy does not like i will have knees that look like a cheese grater...or another fave of mine especially for those kids with braces...is to buy generic soap and when they say an undesirable something make them open their mouth and scrape the soap behind their front and back teeth...yes i am a social worker, yes i am a christian, yes i believe in corporal punishment...however there are children who you could beat till Jesus comes back and it would not phase them...however, these tactics seemed to work with my thunder and lightening...aka jamie and jacob...

Susannah said...

Hmmm...haven't gotten to that one yet! Wish I could help, but I'm no use! :) Love ya girl, hang in there!

Kellie said...

Love that air conditioner vent one - I will definitely have to use that....on Wilson...he's mine that I could beat until Jesus comes back and it wouldn't phase him. My only advice, as with anything, would be to be CONSISTENT - never give in! Even if you are out in public and it is the most inconvenient thing EVER, take him aside - look him straight in the eyes and tell him he is to NEVER use those words again and then follow up with whatever corporal punishment you use and then hug him and tell him you love him too much to let him talk like that.

Let me know how it goes!

Darby said...

Oh Beck, I'm so sorry. I say let him know how shocked you are that he uses this language. If you react in such a way {with a lot of emotion} when he says it... I think he will realize that Mommy means business. We spank. I'm probably not going to broadcast that on my blog but I have no problem telling you that. I use a wooden spoon and the bad behavior ebbs and flows. There are weeks I could keep that spoon in my back pocket. It usually only takes a few spankin's and then just the mention of the spoon gets them back into shape. Let me know how it goes. Love you!

Sabrina said...

Our kids seem to be on the same time line...our middle ones that is. Just to night, Lucius said to me and Tom that we were making him angry and he was getting tired of us. I was shocked. We quickly told him that was bad words and he should not talk like that. He is concerned when ever I tell him that something makes me sad. So I told him that too. We'll have to wait and see what happens. I am not opposed to spanking if need be. Good luck! I'll be thinking about ya.

Lisa said...

My oldest tells me that I hate him and that I love Nolan more. He is tired of having Nolan around. I haven't come up with a solution yet. I remember saying the same thing to my Mom when I wanted to her to feel bad. I guess it has come back to me.

CL said...

I'm going to have to email you on this one!

Amy Lu said...

I've had those words come from LM herself. I sat her down and got eye to eye with her and let her know that "hate" is a very strong word. We can "dislike" someone or "not care" for someone, but it is wrong to "hate" someone. We are all God's creation. We should love each person just as we love God.

That worked for me, but I think your's might need to be hung by the toenails while you give the speech.

Sarah said...

You know I have no words of wisdom on this subject, but please take a picture of the toenail-hanging if it comes to that...

Lindsey said...

i'm glad to say i can't help you with this one.... yet. i certainly have my issues with grady and i'm sure once he can say those words, they'll come. try to remember that he doesn't mean it--i can't remember how many times i told my mom that. hang in there.

Tony and Susan said...

well, in the 18 month old version of that (jonah hitting me or hitting at me when i get on to him), tony jumps all over that. i think it's a little more shock-and-awe like when dad jumps to defend mom (although i know that he's not there during the day) and dad is a little more unforgiving. good luck and let me know what works so i can use it one day!

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